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The Evolution Of Growing Up

The Evolution Of Growing Up

Growing up isn’t easy to do. But it is something that we all have to go through. Thankfully, there are ways that you can give your kids a helping hand in getting older. To help your kids grow up into responsible and successful adults, you should try and give them the best possible start in life. Here is what you should do.

Get Them Into A Good School

Everyone needs a good education. Once you get the grades, you can go on to college and study for your dream job. Once you have your education, no one can take it away from you. Plus, you will have a better chance of getting high-paying jobs. What’s the best way to try and help your kids get a good education? You should try and get them into a good school. The only way you can guarantee a place in a good school is to live close to it. If you want to try to move close to a great school in your area, you can find properties for sale and news from Bridgfords here.

Discuss Big Issues

Don’t go through life protecting your kids in cotton wool. Be open with them and discuss big issues in life. If there is a current political turmoil, don’t be afraid to talk to your kids about it if they have questions. You should also discuss religion with them too even if you aren’t particularly religious. One of the most important things is that your kids experience different opinions and views on big issues. That way, they are in a better position to make up their own minds.

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Encourage Them To Explore Hobbies

One way we develop and grow is by learning who we are through hobbies and pastimes. Hobbies are a great way to relax and spend time, but they are also super important for children. They can help them to develop certain skill sets that they could use in their adult life. For example, if your child gets into drama and acting, he or she could grow into a very confident and sociable person. Something that is their hobby throughout childhood could stay with them and develop into a successful career.

Teach Them Responsibilities

If your kids are going to succeed in the adult world, they will need to know the importance of leading a responsible life. And that means being responsible with their finances and in their work and home lives. So make sure they understand the value of money from a young age. You can teach them this by giving them pocket money and encouraging them to save up. Also, try and teach them the importance of family life by spending as much time as possible with all your relatives.

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Ultimately, the best way you can set up your kids for their adult life is to show them as much love as possible. Let them know that you will always be there to support them and offer them help whenever possible. That, along with all these tips, can help to set your kids up for life.

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Underneath It All I AM! #BehindTheBlogger

Underneath It All I AM!

I am a lot.  My ‘title’ has so many names.  Debbie, Deborah, mom, woman, owner, blogger, parent, writer.  Even ‘that lady’ or ‘their mom.’  Doctor apts call out my last name, often pronouncing it completely wrong.  You think they’d learn.  Customers randomly hear me incorrectly and think I say ‘Betty’ instead of ‘Debbie.’  Makes me laugh.  But underneath it all.  Who am I?

 

I looked up those three words.  Underneath It All

I decided to cut/paste the results and try to go with the flow and answer each, as a mini prompt.

 

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1. Underneath it all we’re just savages, hidden behind shirts, ties and marriages.

I have to disagree with this one.  I’m an optimistic person.  I believe the best in people and I’m very trusting.  Yes, I think there is a beast in all of us but it is on a short leash. I think most of us are good because we want to be, not because of laws requiring us to do so.

2. There are times when everything comes rushing back like a 50-foot wave and there’s nothing I can do to not be drowned underneath it all.

Yes!  100%.  Dead on.  Life is hard and sometimes just overwhelming.  I’ve been a single parent almost 12 years.  Never ending battle of court fights with ex. Doing everything 100% on my own.  Kids help with chores but majority of house, bills, grocery shopping, etc. is all on me.  I worry about being behind if I ever get really sick and can’t work or about having major household repairs that cost thousands or more.  Paying for college for the kids.  Not too long for them to be able to drive too.  Not everything but a LOT of stresses are about money, or lack of.  I don’t care to be rich but I need a better nest to be ahead.

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3. Underneath it all massive transformation is at hand.

YES!  Daily.  Weekly.  I’m always trying to do more, improve more.  This is with my health, household, finding more efficient ways to live and get by.  This should be like a large road sign.

4. You Want Me!

This one made me laugh.  While I like dating someone and being in a relationship I hate the beginning of dating.  Getting to know someone, fitting schedules, figuring out if they are worth dating.  Sometimes being single is easier.  I do believe there is someone out there for everyone.  Just not sure I want to currently invest the time finding them.

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5 & 6.  You Are Lonely!     You Are Lovely!

Such completely different words.  Different statements.  Yet only one letter difference.  Much to ponder on finding both of these.  I’m sometimes lonely but find being with friends is more awesome than spending time on random meaningless dates and spending time with my kids is priceless.  I don’t have too many years until they’ll be out on their own.  Lovely isn’t a word I hear much.  Pretty, beautiful, sexy- YES.  Not lovely.  I think the word lovely has a more personal, deeper meaning, describing a person on the inside and out.  I think I’m going to try to use it more often.

7. I act as everything’s fine, but underneath it all I’m screaming.

Not always but it does happen.  I think most parents go to bed at night feeling like they failed.  I know I did.  All the ‘if only-ies’ catch up and circle my brain.

If only:

I had more time.

I had more patiences.

I complimented them more.

I was a more strict parent.

Made healthier meals.

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But each morning is a new day and a new chance to start over again.

8. Race shouldn’t be an issue. Still got one mind and heart underneath it all.

Having mixed-race children is awesome and hard and not always understood.  My son has been called a nigger.  My daughter has been told, “That is your mom?  You don’t look like her!”  Adults have asked me if they are adopted or if I’m babysitting.  I wish our society wasn’t so narrow minded and just accepted them as they are and didn’t have to guess or ask or insult.  In the end, does the color of one’s skin really matter?

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You Make Me Smile

 

There is so much to make me smile.  I love gardening.  Creating new recipes.  Finishing a really good book.  Hanging out with friends.  But I think seeing my kids happy, thrive, do fantastic things is what really makes me smile.  It is hard being a single parent.  Balancing everything.  Making sure the bills are paid, schoolwork is done and they kids have their needs met.  From music lessons to church, new clothing needs to the latest electronics.  It isn’t easy.  There are many times I have to say no.  Sometimes due to late of money and other times because they just can’t have everything.

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Sometimes smiling is a simple thing.  Happiness is a state of mind. Days can have bad things happen but I really believe how we handle it or what we do with what happened is all depending on ourselves.  Regardless of circumstances, I believe there is a good in everything.  I wish my kids the world and hope they will enjoy it and embrace it as much as I have or more.  Seize the day!

 

 

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THE TEAL PUMPKIN PROJECT: How You Can Do It Too

THE TEAL PUMPKIN PROJECT

The Teal Pumpkin Project started last year and has grown to over 15 million people signed up.  Trick-or-treaters will know, by seeing the Teal Pumpkin on your porch that you have allergy-free treats.  Since we try to avoid artificial dyes for my son due to his ADHD and that means me picking through the candy bag before he can have any, I thought this would be a great idea for anyone with food allergies.  Some are more severe than others.  You can check out The Teal Pumpkin Project on Facebook or follow the Hashtag: #TealPumpkinProject

Maybe next year they’ll create a map of the signups where trick-or-treaters will know the houses they can go to.

Some ideas for non-food treats to hand out:

  • Stickers.
  • Pencils.
  • Spider Rings.
  • Halloween Erasers.
  • Glow sticks.

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Check out how we got our Pumpkins from Garden to Porch.

I love gardening but have mostly small, long planters in my yard.  There is one in the front yard that has a rose bush at each end and nothing in the middle.  In spring my dad mentioned it was the perfect place (south facing, lots of sun exposure) to plant pumpkins.  I bought a six-pack of seedlings from the local nursery of Giant Pumpkins and planted them.  The plant spread out like crazy.  I watered as much as I remembered to. Not always enough but the plants survived California’s hot summer.a 5

 

One week it was super hot and some of the leaves actually looked burnt.  But the pumpkins were growing.  Out of six plants only three pumpkins grew. Perfect for our family of three.

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 The definitely were not ‘giant’ pumpkins but this was my first time.  I’m guessing I didn’t water enough.  Maybe need more nutrients.  I’ll read up more for next spring.  We harvested them this week since the stems were brown and looked almost dead.

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They were quiet sticky (not sure if that is normal) and a little dirty so I washed them off and let them air dry and then we got out some paint and brushes.

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We used acrylic paints and a wide brush so paint the whole pumpkin.  It took quiet a while to dry but I love the color and it spread out nice and evenly.p 4

 Once it was almost dry (just a little sticky to the touch) we added some large googly eyes and then set it out in the sun to fully dry. p 1

 We then got some spider rings and rubber eraser ghosts.  For the rings we cut off the loop part to make them easier to glue just the spider. The erasers seemed a little heavy, so some slid down the pumpkin and we had to reglue and hold in place for a few seconds for the glue to set better.p 8 p 7

 Daeton helped me with this fun project.  He even added a rubber bat and centipede to the top of the pumpkin.

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 Our finished pumpkin.  Ready on the porch for The Teal Pumpkin Project.

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 What are ideas you have for non-food items to put out for Trick-or-Treaters?

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Is My Kid A Brat?

No One Said Parenting Is Easy

There is always a fine line between a small child being cute around other adults and actually being sassy and talking back.  When that continues it could be that the ‘well behaved child age’ really isn’t appearing.  You got past the terrible twos and the troublesome threes.  You aren’t in the tween/teen years.  Yet there is this little human being that still says things like, “No, I don’t want to and you can’t make me.”  What are the options?  Especially in public or a crowd.   Sometimes we need to take a step or two back and access the situation, our parenting and the rules of the household.

Strengthen Communications With Your Child

It is important to sit and talk where there isn’t a fight escalating.  Friendly chat about friends, events on the calendar, party planning.  Even small things like ‘what do you want for dinner tonight?’  Having time one-on-one with your child(ren) gives some private alone time.  This does not need to be a fancy dinner, $100 spent at a toy store or a boring trip to the grocery store.  It can be as simple as sitting in the backyard enjoying the birds outside.  Taking a 10-15 minute walk around the neighborhood.  Making cookies together.

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Active Listening

This is important for everyone.  When someone says something, repeat it back, asking a question about what they said, validating that you heard them.  Example: “I am so mad.  My sister took my hairbrush to a sleepover and left it there. She does not respect my property.”  A good reply might be something like, “So you are upset that she does not respect your belongings?”

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Rules of the HouseHold

It is important to make rules and stick to them.  This can be discussed together, with the parent making the final decision.  Do a online search for ‘classroom rules’ and adapt them for a start.  Make sure they are short and easy to understand.  A list with 5-10 rules is sufficient. With this list also needs to be consequences if they rules are not followed.  For my household there is the problem if me nagging my son 4-5-6 times to do something that takes a few minutes to complete.  Me, “Please unload the dishwasher.”  Son, “Okay, one minute.”  Hours and hours can pass.  He’ll keep repeating his ‘hang on’ comments.  It escalated of him being annoyed that I’m nagging him and me upset because he does not obey when I instruct him to do something.  Now we have a rule for that.  He needs to listen and has a short, specific amount of time to have the job done or I take away his cell phone for one hour.

Need Outside Help?

Never underestimate the wisdom and experience of a good counselor or therapist.  They are an objective outside voice, have years of training and can often help repair relationships.  Counseling does not need to be a lifelong commitment but can be something for a few months to help a parent get back on track and learn new skills in parenting and communication.



 

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