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Underneath It All I AM!
I am a lot. My ‘title’ has so many names. Debbie, Deborah, mom, woman, owner, blogger, parent, writer. Even ‘that lady’ or ‘their mom.’ Doctor apts call out my last name, often pronouncing it completely wrong. You think they’d learn. Customers randomly hear me incorrectly and think I say ‘Betty’ instead of ‘Debbie.’ Makes me laugh. But underneath it all. Who am I?
I looked up those three words. Underneath It All
I decided to cut/paste the results and try to go with the flow and answer each, as a mini prompt.
1. Underneath it all we’re just savages, hidden behind shirts, ties and marriages.
I have to disagree with this one. I’m an optimistic person. I believe the best in people and I’m very trusting. Yes, I think there is a beast in all of us but it is on a short leash. I think most of us are good because we want to be, not because of laws requiring us to do so.
2. There are times when everything comes rushing back like a 50-foot wave and there’s nothing I can do to not be drowned underneath it all.
Yes! 100%. Dead on. Life is hard and sometimes just overwhelming. I’ve been a single parent almost 12 years. Never ending battle of court fights with ex. Doing everything 100% on my own. Kids help with chores but majority of house, bills, grocery shopping, etc. is all on me. I worry about being behind if I ever get really sick and can’t work or about having major household repairs that cost thousands or more. Paying for college for the kids. Not too long for them to be able to drive too. Not everything but a LOT of stresses are about money, or lack of. I don’t care to be rich but I need a better nest to be ahead.
3. Underneath it all massive transformation is at hand.
YES! Daily. Weekly. I’m always trying to do more, improve more. This is with my health, household, finding more efficient ways to live and get by. This should be like a large road sign.
4. You Want Me!
This one made me laugh. While I like dating someone and being in a relationship I hate the beginning of dating. Getting to know someone, fitting schedules, figuring out if they are worth dating. Sometimes being single is easier. I do believe there is someone out there for everyone. Just not sure I want to currently invest the time finding them.
5 & 6. You Are Lonely! You Are Lovely!
Such completely different words. Different statements. Yet only one letter difference. Much to ponder on finding both of these. I’m sometimes lonely but find being with friends is more awesome than spending time on random meaningless dates and spending time with my kids is priceless. I don’t have too many years until they’ll be out on their own. Lovely isn’t a word I hear much. Pretty, beautiful, sexy- YES. Not lovely. I think the word lovely has a more personal, deeper meaning, describing a person on the inside and out. I think I’m going to try to use it more often.
7. I act as everything’s fine, but underneath it all I’m screaming.
Not always but it does happen. I think most parents go to bed at night feeling like they failed. I know I did. All the ‘if only-ies’ catch up and circle my brain.
I had more time.
I had more patiences.
I complimented them more.
I was a more strict parent.
Made healthier meals.
But each morning is a new day and a new chance to start over again.
8. Race shouldn’t be an issue. Still got one mind and heart underneath it all.
Having mixed-race children is awesome and hard and not always understood. My son has been called a nigger. My daughter has been told, “That is your mom? You don’t look like her!” Adults have asked me if they are adopted or if I’m babysitting. I wish our society wasn’t so narrow minded and just accepted them as they are and didn’t have to guess or ask or insult. In the end, does the color of one’s skin really matter?
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Spring Garden Tips & Tricks
I have always loved gardening and enjoy passing what I’d learned on to others. I don’t know everything but I enjoy being in the gardening regardless if it planting flowers and vegetables, weeding or just watering the yard. Gardening is great for many of reasons. It is therapeutic, you can plant flowers to add beauty to your yard, you can plant fruits and vegetables to have the reward of a harvest (this is rewarding for kids too), the ability to eat organic foods more affordable and have it as fresh as possible. While gardening comes easy for some, others don’t have quite a ‘green thumb’ and need to learn by reading and experience. Check out these awesome tips and tricks to get your spring garden ready so that you have a fabulous yard this summer.
You can also check out some pictures of my garden here! I just planted about 50 new plants!
Get outside and dig in!
- Easy Fruits & Vegetables (Hello Nature).
- Dollar Store Garden Supplies (Sunny Sweet Days).
- Growing Marigolds From Seed (Intelligence Domestication).
- Summer Gardening Tips (Bonbon Rose Girls).
- Organic Chemical Free Gardening (The Jenny Revolution).
- 11 Tips For Gardeners (Ann’s Entitled Life).
- Cactus Garden For Kids (A Mother Thing).
- DIY Garden Gate (Thrifty NW Mommy).
- DIY Rain Barrels (Intelligence Domestication).
- Simple Tips For Roses (A Spectacled Owl).
- Kokedama Hanging Garden For Kids (Kids Activity Blog).
- Time Saving Garden Tips (Confessions of an Overworked Mom).
- How To Grow Carrots (Slapdash Mom).
- How To Make Compost At Home (Sweep Tight).
- How to Grow Marigolds From Seed (Intelligent Domestication).
- How To Keep Pests Away From Your Garden (A Mother Thing).
- Dinosaur Garden Markers (Totally The Bomb).
- DIY Raised Garden Bed (Hello Nature).
- Kids Container Garden (Kids Activity Blog).
- Best Perennials For Shade (The Parent Spot).
- 40 Foods That Grow Well From Seeds (Savings Sarah).
- Container Garden Basics (A Mother Thing).
- When is it Safe To Plant? (Ann’s Entitled Life).
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Locked Out Of Knott’s Berry Farm
Someone recently posted on Facebook, asking if anyone around here had childhood memories of school field trips. This brought back memories of me being locked out of Knott’s Berry Farm when I was about ten years old.
In 5th grade my teacher organized a field trip for our class. It was about 15-20 children and 3-4 adults, including her. The parents volunteers drove their own cars and we all squeezed in. When we got there there was two (or three) carloads that arrived but we were still waiting on the last group of people. We were allowed to explore the outside-the-park gift shops while we waited and kept checking back in with our teacher. About 30-45 minutes passed and they still hadn’t arrived.
Where Did Everyone Go?
My kids’ first time at Knott’s Berry Farm